10 Life Lessons to Excel in Your 30s (& 5 Reasons to Look Forward to it)

Curated by CLAI

“The unexamined life is not worth living.” (Socrates)
“The unlived life is not worth examining.” (Sheldon Kopp, psychologist)

10 Life Lessons to Excel in Your 30s
By: Mark Manson

Tiger Leaping Gorge, China

Tiger Leaping Gorge, China (Credits: Christine Lai)

    1. WHAT YOU KNOW: “When I turned forty my father told me that I’d enjoy my forties because in your twenties you think you know what’s going on, in your thirties you realize you probably don’t, and in your forties you can relax and just accept things. I’m 58 and he was right.” (Martin, age 58)
    2. WINGING IT: “All adults are winging it.”
    3. CUMULATIVE HEALTH: The way you treat your body has a cumulative effect; it’s not that your body suddenly breaks down one year, it’s been breaking down all along without you noticing. This is the decade to slow down that breakage.
    4. SETTLING: “Don’t settle for mediocre friends, jobs, love, relationships and life.” (Sean, 43)
    5. YOUR FRIENDS: “Surround yourself and only date people that make you a better version of yourself, that bring out your best parts, love and accept you.” (Xochie)
    6. TRAGEDY: “Tragedy happens in everyone’s life, everyone’s circle of family and friends. Be the person that others can count on when it does. I think that between 30 and 40 is the decade when a lot of shit finally starts to happen that you might have thought never would happen to you or those you love. Parents die, spouses die, babies are still-born, friends get divorced, spouses cheat… the list goes on and on. Helping someone through these times by simply being there, listening and not judging is an honor and will deepen your relationships in ways you probably can’t yet imagine.” (Rebecca, 40)
    7. TAKE CHANCES: “Unless you are already dead — mentally, emotionally, and socially — you cannot anticipate your life 5 years into the future. It will not develop as you expect. So just stop it. Stop assuming you can plan far ahead, stop obsessing about what is happening right now because it will change anyway, and get over the control issue about your life’s direction. Fortunately, because this is true, you can take even more chances and not lose anything; you cannot lose what you never had. Besides, most feelings of loss are in your mind anyway – few matter in the long term.” (Thomas, 56)
    8. FAMILY TIME: “Spend more time with your folks. It’s a different relationship when you’re an adult and it’s up to you how you redefine your interactions. They are always going to see you as their kid until the moment you can make them see you as your own man. Everyone gets old. Everyone dies. Take advantage of the time you have left to set things right and enjoy your family.” (Kash, 41)
    9. HAPPY MARRIAGE: What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility.
    10. GOOD SELFISHNESS: “Be a little selfish and do something for yourself every day, something different once a month and something spectacular every year.” (Nancy, 60)

5 Reasons to Look Forward to the your 30s
By: Lisa Baird

  1. Someone else is the grunt.
  2. You actually know stuff.
  3. Swagger becomes real confidence.
  4. You discover what sexiness really is.
  5. Money grows on trees.

I mean, who gives a sh*t that I’m traveling the world at 32 instead of 22. I’m writing this from a five-star resort on Koh Phi Phi, and you were in a hostel. I think we all know who’s winning.”

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