relationships

Selfie Makovers and Facebook Backburners

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SELFIE MAKEOVER APP: If you haven’t been hitting the gym lately, Photox can add six-pack abs ($3.96), give you skinny legs ($3.96) or bulk-up your arms ($2.97). If it’s a dermatologist you desire, the app can also minimize wrinkles ($2.97), lighten skin ($3.96) and remove acne (99 cents). Photox is connects people with a team of experienced photo editors who can alter images as quickly and naturally as possible.

Developed by a No. Virginia professional, Photox allows users to submit photos for an editing makeover. (Courtesy of Photox)

DIGITAL INFIDELITY: Facebook users in relationships frequently use the site to keep in touch with “back-burners” — exes or platonic friends they know they could connect with romantically, should their current relationships go south.

  • Men have back-burners at roughly twice the rate of women.
  • On average, respondents in relationships said they had romantic or sexual conversations with two people (!) besides their current partner.

Pseudomaturity: Sex, Delinquency, Anxiety

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3 SIGNS OF PSEUDOMATURITY: These young teenagers sought out friends who were physically attractive; their romances were more numerous, emotionally intense and sexually exploring than those of their peers; and they dabbled in minor delinquency — skipping school, sneaking into movies, vandalism. The fast-track kids didn’t turn out O.K.

  • At 13, they were viewed by classmates with envy, admiration and not a little awe. The girls wore makeup, had boyfriends and went to parties held by older students. The boys boasted about sneaking beers on a Saturday night and swiping condoms from the local convenience store. They were cool. They were good-looking. They were so not you. Whatever happened to them?
  • Now in their early 20s, many of them have had difficulties with intimate relationships, alcohol and marijuana, and even criminal activity.
  • They are doing more extreme things to try to act cool, bragging about drinking three six-packs on a Saturday night, and their peers are thinking, ‘These kids are not socially competent.’
Cool Kid

Cool Kid (Gianluca Fabrizio/Getty Images)

ANXIETY: Adolescents, on average, experience more anxiety and fear and have a harder time learning how not to be afraid than either children or adults. It turns out that the brain circuit for processing fear — the amygdala — is precocious and develops way ahead of the prefrontal cortex, the seat of reasoning and executive control. This means that adolescents have a brain that is wired with an enhanced capacity for fear and anxiety, but is relatively underdeveloped when it comes to calm reasoning.

Single in Washington, DC? At Least DC Men & Women Are Equal (on TV)

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GREAT DC LOVE DEBATE: 71% of D.C. residents are single, and that’s certainly not all by choice. “There seems to be a lot of great men and a lot of great women and they seem to not want to be single. And yet for some reason, there seem to be more of them than ever.”

  • Why are people single? Are women crazy gold-diggers and men commitment-phobic players?
  • Life coaches talk of how to change your at-ti-tude, live in the moment and stop treating dates as “spouse-hunting safaris.”
  • The D.C. dating scene is more focused on relationship status than substance: “I think people have way too many agendas and don’t know how to live life. They just want the title — married, engaged, in a relationship, somebody loves me.

 

Powerful DC Women

From left: Keri Russell, devious K.G.B. spy on “The Americans”; Julia Louis-Dreyfus, beltway egotist on “Veep”; Kerry Washington, home wrecker on “Scandal”; and Robin Wright, icy schemer on “House of Cards.” Credit Craig Blankenhorn/FX; Lacey Terrell/HBO; Danny Feld/ABC; Nathaniel Bell for Netflix (NYTIMES)

GENDER EQUALITY IN DC? There is gender equality of a kind in Washington. On television, it’s the one place where it’s safe to say that women are as bad as the men.

5 Types to Unfriend & Bald Cartoons

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5 Types Likely to Unfriend on Facebook: (1) High-school friend, (2) Other, (3) Friend of a friend, (4) Work friend, (5) Common-interest friend.

Snoopy, Garfield And Friends Go Bald For Kids With Cancer: Can these cartoon pals help reduce the stigma of cancer treatment for children?

Bald Cartoons for Cancer

Bald Cartoons for Cancer (Ogilvy Brazil)

 

$10K for a Dating Coach?

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AARP DATING: $2500 dating coaching for the 60+. 45% seniors are divorced, separated or widowed. One coach charges a $3,600 registration fee that is good for up to three years, and an additional $7,200 once a couple is matched. The 60-plus crowd represents the fastest-growing segment in online daters.

AARP Dating

Dr. Judith Himber, 73, and Robert Galvin, 75, who are dating, outside Dr. Himber’s home in Cambridge, Mass. (Mylan Cannon , NYTIMES)

  • One of the big dating challenges for both sexes in this age group is that they are so rusty “they go back to their same awkward self at age 20, insecure and unsure.”
  • Many women are much more likely to be happy with a guy who has less money, or even less education, than they would have in their 20s or 30s.
  • Companionship is among the top reasons both men and women over 60 seek love. For the 55+, more than 80% of both men and women said that the main reason to couple was “to share life experiences, past and future.
  • Few get offended with prenuptials. Financial considerations are among the biggest reasons people in their 60s and older are reluctant to remarry. Many also worry about protecting their children’s inheritance.